In March of 2015, I received news that my son Jarvis who was born with cerebral palsy, now 18 would need scoliosis surgery. Thinking that we had time to schedule, but little did we know it would be sooner than later. So on May 4, 2015 we went into surgery, which was a long process of healing and rehab. I wanted to make things for me as simple as possible, so that I would be able to give my time to helping my child. I decided to cut all the perm out of my hair on May 3rd. Ever since then, I have had more time and money on Saturday mornings. I love my natural hair because it is easy to care for and I look cute. I have awesome earrings and headbands and my husband loves it!!!
Growing up I always wanted a relaxer. It was not until high school that I got my very first perm! Boy was I happy about the outcome but not the process at all.
After years of relaxing my hair...it was not until 2005 that I had a reality check. Taking medications and being diagnosed with lupus, I knew I had to make some changes. Getting rid of chemicals in my hair was the first one on the list.
I have not regretted it one bit and I have embraced my natural hair with pride. In fact, I have received more compliments being natural than when I was relaxed. My hair is fuller, longer and healthier than ever before. I even have more styling options and able to save money even though I still get my hair washed and conditioned biweekly. The natural hair journey has been an awesome one for me and if I had a daughter she would be on the journey as well. I will continue to embrace what God has given me naturally.
“To be, or not to be” that is the question naturally speaking of course. So, after much urging from my son I decided to take the plunge once again and embrace what I was born with…natural hair. He would ask me “Mom, why are you ashamed of wearing your hair natural?” and my reply would always be “I’m not (with attitude)! I’m just waiting until I hit the big 5-oh”.
Ten months before my 50th birthday, I stopped relaxing so I could begin making the transition. I started wearing cornrows (looking like Queen Latifah in “Set It Off”), in order to have some new growth without having to cut my hair down to the white meat, LOL.
Finally, in January 2010 I went to my beautician ready for the big chop or so I thought. You know when you have those doubts like “will my head look big?” or “Will I look like a dude with my hair short?” etc, etc. Subconsciously, I was still trying to fit in society’s box of what black women’s hair should look like to be acceptable to the masses. However, I didn’t have long to ponder those doubts because before I could blink she had a handful of my hair and began snipping away.
After 20 years of chemical dependency (hair crack), I was finally free. I said, “Good-bye to scalp burns, hair breakage, and shedding like a shaggy dog. And hello to My Natural Is Beautiful!!
Cierra has been a part of Accented Glory since its launch in June 2013. Outside of being an "Accessory Diva", she's a millennial who's currently navigating adulthood. Click Not One Of Your Little Friends to check out her podcast!